that it’s easy to confuse wanting to want to for wanting to.
Wanting to is commitment…being ready and willing to do whatever it takes.
Wanting to want to is pre-commitment…still wishing and hoping, but not yet ready to take action. Dr. David Gruder of Willingness Works calls this a “gleam”— seeing the light but not yet willing to feel the heat!
A gleam and a commitment are two separate and distinct stages in the change cycle. They feel energetically different.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting to want to. It’s the stage right before real commitment. The problem arises when you confuse the two—thinking you want to when the real truth is you just want to want to! In your confusion you beat yourself up for not making the progress you thought you should.
Knowing this profound little distinction has saved me from a lot of self-abuse!
Scan your life. Are there any areas where you said you were going to do something, but you haven’t? If so, go easy on yourself. You’re just not ready…YET!
Figure out what’s getting in your way of being ready, or go do something else.
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